Wow! I did not add that in, sorry for that! We are on the PC. I have been working on this issue a little bit more recently and my three conclusions are these:
1) Xbox Live Gold is required to use the mic. I have gold, he does not.
2) The game is wanting to use the mic on his 360 controller.
3) The game is just fails with the mic, and I should stop wasting time.
Over four hours of trying to figure this problem out is purely retarded. The game setting have the mic on, both our vistas show the mic, and we play L4D and CSS no problem with the mic. This problem is just GTA4 (retail version).
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