Scott Kelby and some others have books/guides, there's a ton on Lynda.com , etc.
Agreed-- the learning curve for LR is a little rough, but assuming your needs are met by it, then once you get used to it, it's a ton faster. I open Photoshop maybe once a month now for advanced edits I can't do in LR and that's about it.
and the RAW adjustments are done the same way in Lightroom and in Photoshop, so at my level of understanding, both programs are the same.
Absolutely correct-- and one of the advantages of the LR/PS combo-- you get the same results in both in the end as far as image editing, but for the bulk edits, metadata edits, etc. LR is designed to operate as a full, reasonably quick and streamlined workflow.
I still need to adjust exposure, lighting, color, etc. differently for each picture,
Also true, but you can create your own presets in LR, there's its own automatic settings, you can set per-camera defaults, and the most important part of any photo management system,
at least to me-- you can cull/quick collection/flag/star/whatever your photos into the priority sets you want to work on and publish, edit those quick, and get those published, then break down the rest and edit as needed.
Also, I find that "differently for each picture" isn't quite as different as one would think all the time-- e.g. little batches of photos are very similar, I can set one white balance and apply to multiple photos very quickly, set one crop and apply to multiple very quickly, etc. It's lots of things that help get large batches of photos done faster, or even 80% done, I can then fine-tune only the ones I intend to publish.