I was simply asking about the core difference in the boards that are "Server" vs "Desktop". I've got everything else figured out ahaha, its not my first rodeo.
Up-time/Reliability = a must with a server, goes without saying, I don't plan on building something ultra low that's typical.
Raid 1 - Its basic and inexpensive... and they don't have a need for very large amounts of space... this is the route I go for a business this small.
Power Supply - I go for the higher end PSUs when building a server obviously, not getting the 30-40 dollar specials lol.
Power Outtages - Really? This shouldn't even be mentioned, another thing that goes without saying that I'll have the system fully hooked up to a UPS.
Backups - Think inside the box for backups... IOSafe, enough said

. On-site Waterproof/Fireproof external drive.
External restarts are the only thing I've never really gotten a chance to screw with, but these guys practically (wait... Literally) live behind their shop. Not to mention we aren't talking about something critical that if it goes down they will be loosing business. AKA it won't cost them anything to have that server offline for 2 days. Technically they could temporarily do things without the server if they wanted to, it would just be much more tedious. I would like to look into remote restart hardware. I'd imagine their may be able to way to do with with something similar to WoL.
I understand your concerns and the questions your asking. I do have another customer where everything you mentioned would mean them loosing 1000's of dollars for a single day of being down. This customer is not anywhere near that point. I was considering the i5 route too, but the more I thought about it, something equivalent to an i3-2120 with 8gbs of ram will be more than enough. I'm "scared" of AMD by any means, I was a hardcore AMD guy until Bulldozer. Unfortunately that left me partially clueless to the Bulldozer performance as I was so disgusted with the results of the release. Perhaps a FX-6100 would do the trick, in which case I could use some ECC ram. Some more cores, ECC and its about 15 bucks more and it benchmarks higher than the i3-2120 that's $124. All a matter of whether I can find a decent board to accompany it. Then again the performance of those chips seem to be pretty spotty and the feedback on them (Power consumption, heat, single threaded performance) all are pretty dismal. Brings me back to my "I'm finally buying an i5-2500k" days that my current rig is running on. (Which I'm very happy with /shrug)