Thanks again for all the help, I ended up going to Microcenter, and spent more than I planned, lol.
My new system ended up being
I5 3570K
Asrock Pro 3 Motherboard
16gb Crucial Ballistick ram
250 Samsung 840 series SSD
Coolermaster EVO 212 cooler
also ended up upgrading GPU as well, EVGA GTX 660 SC - I probably should have went all in the with 660ti, but this one was only $199 so it should be more than enough horsepower for quite a while.
Plus I bought and I3 3225 and cheap motherboard combo and a samsung 840 120gb plus 8gbs of Ram as well to rebuild my wifes box as well. So it ended up being a $1000 trip.
I got my system all put together and it really screams, I love the crazy fast boot up times off the ssd. The only game I have played is skyrim, and it looks great and is running ultra smooth.
I didn't realize you can double the fans on the EVO, so I'm going to get another fan for it then maybe I will give it a little overclock.
So far though I couldn't be happier.