VincentHanna wrote:
You seem to have just described me. I'm very cheap... except when I'm not, and I ascribe values to experiences, like a good meal out, far more liberally than I do commodities and consumerism... and to that end, when I go out, regardless of who is treating (though in actuality its almost always me treating others...), I will order whatever looks good.
IMO, IF you are treating your friends to a "nice dinner out" at le petite uppity frence steak hous with the expensive filets and the even more expensive wine, then you should expect the person being treated to order what looks good... Plus an appetizer, and a salad... If you don't want to put down $80+ on the meal, then treat them to a meal at a cheaper restaurant. I have yet to have someone tell me that they are too fancy to eat at the cheesecake factory or the olive garden when they know its on my dime... hell, take them to bob's big boys. But don't get (secretly/ stewing) angry, about your friends ordering an extra plate of mushrooms and a side salad. Life's too short.
Conversely, you can always wait until the check comes and offer to treat then. Problem solved.
You're welcome.
Oh, don't get me wrong, when I treat people out, I don't deliberately expect them to get something cheap and get turned off if they get something higher up the price range. I'm referring to folks who are known for being tightwads and hold on tight to every penny but you just know they don't care if you're the one who's shelling out. For me, that's quite a violation of the Golden Rule ("Don't do unto others..." or "Treat others the way..."). If I see that they're really the kind of pople who just enjoy good things and spend money for them, then I would find it perfectly fine if they order what they thought was nice irregardless of the price. After all, we're there to have a good time, not look for flaws.
Seems to me these people are just keen to take advantage of others' generosity and want to make the most of the situation by buying something that they themselves wouldn't pay for... because someone else is paying. That irks me. Everyone works for their money, and a little Golden Rule goes a long way.
VincentHanna wrote:BTW, how old are the folks we're discussing?
In their early 40's, maybe.
UnfriendlyFire wrote:If a "friend" consistently rips you off when you pay for the dinner, maybe you should consider distancing from such person.
You could say we're related, so that person isn't someone I could just toss out my life.
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