Ok so here is the deal, for the past 3 years I have pretty much become nothing. I lost my drive to do anything, sex, working out, going out. And it isn't lazyness, as it is literally 0 energy. I still play basketball or racquetball once or twice a week, but even doing that my energy level is barely there anymore. I am not a fat slob or anything and it isn't my cholesterol lvls. I am only 30 years old and my testerone level was 350.
You're describing me six months ago. 31-years old. Tested my levels twice in the same month: 214-ng/dl on the first, and 340-ng/dl on the second test. Zero sex drive, difficulty physically "getting it up" during sex, lost an interest in weight training, and seemed to be adding body fat despite keeping calories in check.
My GP was a **** asshat who told me the 340-ng/dl was "completely acceptable" and that all of my other symptoms should be treated separately. Basically, he wanted to put me on Viagra for the sex, Zoloft or some such **** for the "depression" and Adderall or Ritalin for the energy. I was appalled. He also drew about five vials of my blood and put me through a battery of clinical tests to try and find another cause for my symptoms.
I ended up having to go to a private, men's clinic. Unfortunately, insurance doesn't cover treatments like this as its considered "fertility" or "anti-aging" treatments and thus non-essential. As such, it's not cheap. But the difference is I walked in, and the doc instantly knew what I was describing. The first thing he did was put me on clomiphene citrate. Clomid is typically used to increase sex drive in women, but it has an off-label use in men as a trigger to cue your testicles to "wake up." After 50-mg a day for six weeks, my T-levels had gone from 340-ng/dl to 1236-ng/dl.
Now, in my case, the clomid did wonders for my T and I felt the results elsewhere (lost body fat, increased muscle mass, better weight training sessions). However, the sex drive/hardness issues are only about 60% better, so I'm probably going to come off the clomid, let my levels come down a bit, and start a low-dose of testosterone cypionate.
Sorry, I know that's a lot, but here are my takeaways:
1- Find a doc who specializes in this ****. Most docs are terrified of test, ignorant of it (my GP tried to tell me my symptoms were not the result of low-T despite being TEXTBOOK), and don't want to touch the issue. Find a doc who actually gets it, that you can talk to, and that's responsive.
2- No, it's not normal to have no sex drive as a man. It's not normal to wake up and want to stay in bed because you just don't see the point. Don't let anyone tell you it is, and know you're not the only one.
3- Don't waste your money on anything other than Rx test. All of the other "boosters" are ****.
4- Eat more saturated fat, cholesterol. Whole milk, eggs, bacon.
5- Lift heavy ****.
Not sure where you are geographically, but PM me and I can send you the name of my doc.