Jon wrote:I find myself in an interesting dynamic that I have never been in before. My sister and her two kids have just moved to Canada and are staying with us until they can get their own place. My nephew is 9 yrs old and he is showing great interest in games such as Gunman Chronicles and Unreal Tournament 2004 (games which he has played before at friends houses apparently) and as such this is all he wants to play. First problem, he's 9 yrs old and I don't feel 'right' letting a 9 yr old play a genre of FPS games that I only got into until I was about 13-14 yrs old.
What have others done in this situation? Do you let them play the games but reduce the gore level with in-game settings or do you out-right forbid them from playing it?
When I was 9 I was still playing with Lego and transformers and the only games I could play were games like Super Mario Bro's on the Nintendo 8-bit system and Sierra quests like Space Quest and Police Quest. Of course back then violence in games was practically non existent and parental control was never a thought or problem in my parents eye's, today it seems to be a different story.
Kids can make up their own minds about what they like and who they want to be. You can "protect" them as much as you want to but it makes little difference it they make up their minds about what they like.
Jigar2speed5095 wrote:idchafee wrote:This is your sister's decision, not yours. Punt it to her
Who told u that ??
Bauxite wrote:What I saw growing up was that the most overbearing/overprotective parents were much much more likely to have the wildest/insane/dangerous kids as soon as they got out of eyesight. When "the man" is holding you down 24/7, you hate it that much more.
SNM wrote:Bauxite wrote:What I saw growing up was that the most overbearing/overprotective parents were much much more likely to have the wildest/insane/dangerous kids as soon as they got out of eyesight. When "the man" is holding you down 24/7, you hate it that much more.
That's not a function of protection, that's a function of bad parenting. Ie, inconsistently forcing a child into a code of conduct they don't understand because nobody's taught them the underlying moral system and being visibly angry at them anytime they do something outside that code without any reasonable ability to know it was wrong.
Me, I've been pretty protected by most standards, and while plenty of people find my moral system somewhat strange (check out R&P ) I've never had any of the symptoms of classic overprotection because I was made aware of the existence of things at some point, but also made aware of the underlying moral code that meant I wasn't going to.
just brew it! wrote:But I also believe there is a pretty strong correlation between overbearing/overprotective parents and bad parenting in general.
AMD Damo wrote:Hah. Eventually the kid is going to evade the "gore" blocks anyway... I did on Duke Nukem 3D...
AMD Damo wrote:Also who cares about exposing your kid to these games? Just because someone plays games 24/7 doesnt give them the urge to kill someone when they get bullied at school. Those people who think that are F[_]c|<ed in the head TBH..