Even with fallback mode, it still doesn't allow you to put things on the desktop
After using it, and I mean really using it, Gnome 3 makes all of the sense in the world. It's an application centric design, the same design Win 8, and Apple are following. While you can return the Nautilus icons back to the desktop I have found that I don't need them there, since 100% of the time I would have an application blocking them anyway. Once I open whatever apps the chances of me getting to the Desktop to fire off a launcher is pretty much zero.
or a easy way to add/delete/move things from the panel.
It is a take it or leave it approach, and from everyone I have talked to, they all chose to leave it.
You can always install your own dock if need be. It's not like there aren't options for docks and panels for gnome. I think people are overreacting. You would have thought that kibadock, AWN, etc didn't exist or something. If you need a fully customisable panel install one. It's not impossible to do. Hell I did it even when I used Gnome 2.